Understanding Islam

​For Islamophobia Awareness Month, we are privileged to have passionate employees who wanted to share their experiences and, above all, their pride in the Islamic faith. Our first personal perspective is shared anonymously, highlighting the unfortunate reality that many still feel the need to hide their identities—underscoring just how vital it is to address and dismantle harmful misconceptions.

This year’s IAM theme, Seeds of Change, reflects our belief that small actions, like reading and understanding real-life experiences, can collectively lead to meaningful transformation.

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Growing up with Islam: My experience

As a person raised in the UK by a Turkish Muslim mother and an English father, my life has been uniquely shaped by Islam. Whilst I have an English last name and I look like I do, my connection to Islam has been a consistent source of guidance, purpose, and structure. In a society where Islam often faces misconceptions and hostility, my faith has been an anchor, giving me strength, a sense of family responsibility and the will to always be the best version of myself.

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The core values of Islam in my life

If I were to capture the essence of how Islam influences me in three words, they would be family, determination, and kindness. My family has always been central in my life—a value deeply rooted in Islam. I feel a strong, almost instinctive responsibility to care for my parents and grandparents, especially as they grow older. This isn’t just cultural; it's a core part of Islam.

“Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to your parents. If one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of disrespect, or scold them, but say a generous word to them. And act humbly to them in mercy, and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy on them, since they cared for me when I was small”. (17: 23-24)

 My mother, a resilient and determined woman, is my role model. Her strength, drawn from Islamic teachings, has shown me how to face life’s challenges with resilience and purpose. Islam has instilled in me the importance of kindness—not just toward family and friends but toward everyone. Even in high-stress situations, I aim to treat others with compassion, as my faith reminds me that each person deserves respect and empathy.

“Worship Allah [alone] and associate none with Him. And be kind to parents, relatives, orphans, the poor, near and distant neighbours, close friends, [needy] travellers, and those [bondspeople] in your possession. Surely Allah does not like whoever is arrogant, boastful.” (4:36)

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Early influences and learning

Growing up, my mother approached teaching us about Islam gently. Every week, we would read the Koran and discuss its teachings, with my mother helping us understand how to apply them to our lives. This was probably different from other Muslim households; my mother never forced her beliefs on us, and with a non-Muslim father, she allowed us the freedom to explore our identities. I am deeply grateful for her balanced approach, which has allowed me to embrace Islam on my own terms.

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Islamophobia and misunderstandings

I recognise my privilege in often “passing” as non-Muslim. Because I don’t fit certain stereotypes, I experience less discrimination than visibly Muslim friends and family members. However, I see Islamophobia first hand through my mother and grandparents, who have faced racism, especially in recent years. My grandmother, who wears a hijab, has encountered prejudice despite being the kindest person I know. It’s heart-breaking to witness the discrimination she endures in a society she’s contributed to for years.

In recent times, Islamophobia has worsened due to economic and social stresses. The media often amplifies negative stereotypes, and this has created an environment where Muslims are more vulnerable to hate. It’s especially challenging when people in authority fail to speak out, allowing harmful stereotypes to persist.

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Misconceptions about Islam

A major misconception about Islam is the perception that women are oppressed or lack agency. In reality, Islam assigns high value to the roles of both men and women, emphasising their complementary responsibilities. Raising children is seen as a sacred responsibility and blessing, and Islam encourages the carer role not as a limitation but as a position of honour. Unfortunately, this cultural misunderstanding fuels stereotypes that overlook the real empowerment Islam provides within its values. Women can go out there and achieve their careers and that’s amazing, however Islam is the only religion that recognises the enormous value of your contribution if you decide to focus solely on raising your children.

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Finding hope in changing perspectives

Reflecting on my younger years, I remember feeling reluctant to talk about my Muslim identity due to fear of judgment. Today, however, I am more open. I believe that conversations like these and broader awareness initiatives are essential in combatting Islamophobia. When people engage in genuine conversations about Islam, they often realise it’s a source of peace and community, not the harsh caricature portrayed in the media.

My family is a true source of hope. Despite the significant cultural and religious differences between my parents’ families, they've worked through these challenges together, arriving at a place of mutual respect, appreciation, and understanding. We recognise the unique value each person brings, and our differences have become a foundation for trust and love within our family. A testament to the power of open mindedness and knowledge.

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The role of allies against Islamophobia

Non-Muslim allies play a crucial role in challenging Islamophobia. When allies speak up, it’s powerful because it shows others that respect for Islam transcends religious lines. Allies can help simply by educating themselves about Islam’s true principles and questioning stereotypes. Supporting individuals instead of judging by group assumptions makes a world of difference. With patience, compassion, and genuine understanding, I’m hopeful that we can foster a society that values and respects the diverse experiences of all its members.

In the end, Islam has been a quiet, constant guide in my life. Its teachings remind me to strive for kindness, honour my family, and face life’s challenges with resilience. I hope that by sharing my experience, I can help others see the beauty and strength Islam offers and inspire a shift toward empathy and understanding.

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